Having Something to Prove

The one that loves you will do stuff for you, because she loves you. How this comes about is a big turn on for me. Have I mentioned that I'm an incurable romantic?

I think I've touched this topic more than once, already. However, I think it's a good one, and worth repeating. If your lady takes the time and trouble to attempt to give you your fantasy, go where ever she leads, for as long as you can. (Look up the safe-word blogs.)

Sexist And Non-Politically Correct

Ready? Here's the statement: I love to fantasise about a woman that looks built for sex, but locks me up in a chastity belt.

Selfish, sexist, and completely inapropriate thing to say to a lady? But I can't help but think it. Does this make me a bad person?

I open doors for ladies, I pay for dinner, and I give up my seat on buses and trains for the old and the ladies. I think it's a generation thing, although encouragingly I still see this behaviour, now. I think good manners are a good thing.

We can't help who we are, and how we think. My view is that we need to embrace our human nature, not legislate against it. That way lies madness. Once we know who we are, we can choose to behave in a civilised manner. I feel that once we have enough self knowledge that we can use to make our choices, we will advance as a race. Anything that tries to force this will end up being counter-productive.

Anyway, at the beginning I mentioned a fantasy.

New Religion

I have a real problem with organised religion. They always think they're the only ones that have it right. Such arrogance! - And contrary to the core teachings of tollerance and neighbourly love. Such irony! I've expressed my views on Edge of Vanilla blog (see links).

However, as a good Catholic boy, with A-Level Guilt, it is inevitable that the whole ritual and costume drama features in my fantasies.

Oh, I'm Obsessed

I think that most, if not all of you, have worked out by now that the title of the blog is quite accrate. (Does what it says on the tin.) I've also mentioned that one of my favourite books is Venus In Furs, by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. (The guy after which Kraft and Ebbing named masochism.) Although I don't have a thing for furs, I am an incurable romantic. However extreme, this is a love story. I recommend it.

Anyway, back at the fantasy...

Yes, M'Lady

Looking at Thunderbirds the other day, reminded me of the old joke:

LadyP: Parker.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady?

LadyP: Remove my dress.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady.

LadyP: Now, remove my slip.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady.

LadyP: Remove my shoes.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady.

LadyP: Now, remove my stockings.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady.

LadyP: And if you must wear my clothes, ask first.

NosyP: Yes, M'Lady.

Silly, I know, but I love silly jokes. Especially ones where no one is the butt.

Dressing up in ladies things is not my thing. We're all different, aren't we? But these games are like a fast flowing river; once you get in, you can easily be swept away.

Naked or Clothed?

Is the female form more attractive naked or wearing something?

I've often wondered why most porn seems to be of naked ladies. Then I suppose I'm different. (Just look at the blog!) No surprise there, then? I think my favourite attire would be the kind that means the lady may as well be naked. Skin tight, bits exposed that ordinary clothes hide; that sort of thing. Oh, and black. I love black and shiny.

Don't get me wrong. Naked has it's place. I love the female form. It's just that I suppose I love to be teased, too.

As Samual Clements noticed (and I'm paraphrasing), Naked people have very little authority in society. Oh yes, Sam, it's all behind closed doors. Naked keyholders, oh yes!

Have You Ever Thought Extreme Fantasies?

Some days the fantasies can get a little dark. My moods swing from light-hearted to utter slavery, and all points inbetween. But no matter how dark they get, I always fantasise a consensual element. I am always the master of my own downfall. I've stopped trying to figure out why, I just go with it, now.

As a species we like to be frieghtened. (Horror movies are as popular as ever.) I think such darkess needs to be discussed, as it is a safe way to exorcise ones demons. As long as the darkness is in your head, there is nothing to fear, even when voiced.

Living My Life Again

What if life came with a remote and it had a rewind button. I suppose what prompted this line of fantasy is the phrase, 'Youth is wasted on the young'.

Having finally figured out what makes me hot, it would be great to have the vigour of youth to fully enjoy it. The other attraction must be: we're all geniuses in hindsight. Having the money to invest in a litle company approached by IBM to make an operating system, when the little company was operating out of a garage. (Microsoft, for those not into computers.) This would leave all the time for indulgence. Another fantastic fantasy!

Isn't She Lovely?

Hands up all those that think I mean her looks?

Never undervalue the partner willing to go along with any hair-brained fantasy, just to please you. Lovely!

Some Place To Call My Own

I like my own space. I'm all for sharing and togetherness, but there are times that I want my own company, and retreat to my study. I think it's important that both have this kind of space.

The question is, how sacrosanct should it be?

Fantastical Fantasy

I love the fantasy genre. I think a magic mirror is standard issue for such occations. What would we do, if we had a genuine, fully functional oracle? How would we use it? Wealth, health or happiness?

One Size Does Not Fit All

With the number of sites now with excellent advice on chastity belts, its still sad to see the number of people complaining that they're having trouble with their chosen device. (Perhaps 'complain' is too strong? More accurately, ask questions after they've bought a device.)

One thing I'd like to make clear: there is no such thing as a stupid question. These devices can provide much fun, but can also be capable of inflicting a lot of pain, even damage, if not fitted properly. NEVER, EVER, hesitate to ask any question. It is stupid not to.

This is especially true of belt type devices. The CB-XXX type comes with different spacers to accomidate different sizes of anatomy. By comparision they are easier to start with.

Meanwhile back at the belts: One day I'd love a full belt. My start point is to ensure that I look at the body type for which the belt was designed. (Endomorph, Mesomorph, or Ectomorph) From there I will be having a lengthy conversation with the maker. But only after I read their website. I don't want to ask what has already been asked. I want to get straight to the detailed 'me' questions.

It would be lovely to have a collection...

Involving Others

I've noticed that there are quite a few of my followers (I get red cheeks at the thought of being a Guru.) that have an interest in cuckoldry. There are some aspects of this scene that turns me on in fantasy, but I think I couldn't handle this in reality. This is just me. I wouldn't dream of stopping the fun of others.

Anyway, to the fantasy. If you want to see more, please leave a comment.

Longer Chastity Makes For Bigger Orgasms?

I've seen this debated (Yes, on mass. Thank you!) on a few websites. (Check out Edge of Vanilla, for one.) There is no doubt that waiting to cum, makes for a bigger high. However, there's a trail-off. At some point, the orgasms don't get any bigger, or more intense. The other thing that must come into play is: how skillful is your partner at playing you? How well do they know your reactions, and can judge the best time to send you over ther edge?

I think the skill of the teaser will outwiegh belt time, every time. However, to be teased with longer and longer belt times... oh my!


I don't think there should be anything that causes embarrassment between a loving couple. It used to annoy me when I discovered my ex-wife kept a problem to herself, and it then grew, but I had the solution all along. If only she wasn't embarrassed to ask, or even confide in me. (I must admit, most of these were work related, and were to do with computers. I used to train people, but she refused to seek my advice.)

This has a habbit of spreading to other areas of the relationship, and should be nipped in the bud. Share everything. - Scorpios, I know this is particularly difficult for you, but please try!

Baggage (Emotional)

We all have it. How does it affect a new relationship? Do you find it getting in the way? No easy answer, is there?

I suppose the best fantasy, in these circumstances is that she had played T&D and chastity games before. Then the baggage could be used positively.

Of course it could mean that she is further along than you. Whatever the position, a relationship is a team effort. Like a team of horses pulling a cart. If the horses are going at different speeds, the cart fall over.

The general answer is easy: communication. What you communicate is the difficult bit.

Good luck.

Chastity Virgin

I'm not one for one-night-stands. I'm a romantic, and must feel a connection, if I'm to be intimate with someone. I think this is in part due to my Catholic upbringing. I think I'd feel like I was using someone, if I didn't have an emotional connection. I suppose my moral centre is an integral part of me. With this established about me, I understand the diversity of people out there, and have experienced a relationship with a submissive lady that liked to feel 'used'. It was great fun, all be-it short-lived.

I think each relationship is unique. Or it might be that we concentrate on the new things we try with a new person. It's like there are many virginities for us to loose. I'm no longer a spanking virgin. (Both giving and recieving.) Same for being a bondage virgin. etc. etc. (Complete list on successful application of bed mate only. Thank you for peeking.)

Do all good Catholics wish they could marry a virgin? Now there's a tease...

Get Away From It All

It's holiday season. How many of you have tried behaviour that's a bit more risqué, when you're away from your own hometown? Does the fact that you're likely to never see anyone that'll whiteness any embarrassment again? It does free one to be more bold. Is this part of the way you'd relax?

My preference is to have quite, intimate moments. I don't need an audiance for my kinks, just a partner in crime.

Venus Out Of The Waves

How many of you know the story of Venus? (Her Roman name. Aphrodite to her Greek worshipers.) She was born out of the waves on a beach on the island of Cypress.

You all know my love of Leopold's novel, right? Would Venus/Wanda look like this in your dreams, too?

Little Group

Tom, I know you said you didn't like the number of Chastity Island fantasies, but what about going on holiday with a group of friends, where all the ladies are keyholders?

Those Eyes

Sometimes I just like seeing a stunning woman in my captions. This lady is a beauty. I'm also aware that inner beauty is worlds apart from cosmetic beauty. I'm not that shallow! - Or at least I hope I'm not!!

As for the other topic, here: No it will still work, no matter how long you lock it up. But never let an ugly fact come in the way of a perfectly lovely fantasy.

Special Delivery

Are you like a kid at Christmas when something you've been waiting for finally turns up in the mail? I am. I suppose we never loose our inner child. Just remember the little brat can be quite selfish at times. It's a constant battle to remain civilised.

So Close, Yet So Far

I think an essential part of the tease, for me, is the notion that the goodies are so close, yet so far. Outfits that are really no good at covering or protecting the lady's modesty are the best.

Leather Coat And Thigh Boots

I've always wanted a girlfriend to show up dressed like this. Perhaps in some parallel universe she has!

Careful Wishing

We all wish for something, don't we? If we really did find ourselves with a djinni, would we be saying, "No, no, I didn't mean that. Can I have that wish again, please?"

Games that help bind relationships

I think that adults sometimes forget how we used to form relationships as kids. Cowboys and Indians, Cops and Robbers, Doctors and Nurses. I think telling eachother fantasies is the adult equivalent. It gives a valuable insight into ones partner, and should always be met with patience and understanding.